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DEAR HARRIETTE: I am a senior in college, and I'm graduating soon. The last few years have been difficult in terms of figuring out who I am. The major I chose is not necessarily something that connects to me. I chose a field in STEM because I thought it would bring stability, but I am a creative person through and through. My lack of passion for my field of study has made it hard for me to excel. I don't want to go to class, and I don't want to complete assignments. Everyone is telling me to just push through, but it is tearing me apart. It would be a bold move to completely shift my major this late in the game, but it is what I've wanted to do every day for my entire college experience. I understand the importance of being monetarily stable and having job security; however, I do not want to be sad anymore. I am tired of it. Should I make the drastic pivot, or should I just see this through and pursue my passion post-grad? -- Passion Pivot

DEAR PASSION PIVOT: As a senior, you have only a few weeks left of college. My recommendation is to tough it out and get your degree. Then you are free to move on to pursue other interests with a degree in tow. Since your passion is creative, you may need a job to fund your dreams, and working in STEM could be helpful in that regard. Establish a few goals for yourself that include making your artistic interests concrete. Find a fellowship or workshop or other activity where you can immerse yourself in artistic study -- perhaps as soon as this summer. Don't walk away from a degree that could be a useful tool in carving out your future.

DEAR HARRIETTE: I've been friends with this guy for about three years now. In the beginning of our friendship, we hit it off immediately, even though we have different interests and personalities. As someone whose friends are usually very similar to them, I found this to be interesting. If you saw us out, you'd probably think we are polar opposites, but that's why we connect so well. Eventually, for me, these feelings of friendship developed into romantic attraction. In terms of reciprocity, he does and says things that insinuate he has deeper feelings for me, too. I have never felt so romantically attracted to someone's personality, considering men usually give me the ick after a few words, but he's different. Do you think it's worth me bringing up the conversation, or should I wait for him to make a move? -- Does He Like Me?

DEAR DOES HE LIKE ME?: There is no rule that says you have to wait for the guy to reveal his feelings. If you feel strongly about him, say so. Point out that you know you two are different, but maybe that's part of the appeal. Ask him if he is interested in pursuing a relationship with you to see what may unfold. What do you have to lose?

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(Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)

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